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It starts and ends with gratitude

The great irony – as far back as humans have existed, is that we have turned to the sky for guidance. The only difference now, is that we no longer look up in faith, we look down at the phone in our hands receiving a GPS signal from the satellites above. Then we look straight ahead, at the traffic in front of us.

Perhaps it is time to trust yourself for a change. To be guided from within.

Because a cloudy day, the battery on your phone, a cluttered cityscape or heading into the tunnel at the end of the light shouldn’t disrupt your real navigation system. That is when it should shine brightest within.

It is time to trust yourself again. You have everything you need to guide you. After all, you have made it this far in your life handling everything that life has thrown your way. Right?

Fear = look out!
Courage = look in
Gratitude = look up and around

And if you are constantly looking down – perhaps it is time to dig a little deeper. 

Life changing experiences don’t have to be hard. And creating new habits is the best way to change your life. Starting with day one – today!

Since March 2020 every night, my wife and our three children have practiced gratitude before the kids go to bed. Not the typical “what are you grateful for?” question that tends to breed the same answers every day (family, food, housing, friends, chocolate etc.). But applying the simple suggestion from The Resilience Project of answering “what went well for you today?”

So each night, we end the day in a moment of gratitude.

3 things that went well today.

After a few days, you start to look out for experiences that are positive in your life.
After a few weeks, you start intentionally creating more positive experiences in your day.
After a few months, you start to see things you never saw before, that are incredible – things, people, experiences and places that were right in front of you the whole time – that you now have a deep appreciation and sense of gratitude for.

You even start to take pure delight in other people’s moments of gratitude. That’s the really delicious gooey stuff in the choc chip cookie of life

And then you realise two of the most powerful things you will ever experience:

  1. That two people can be in exactly the same situation, with the same external circumstances, having completely different experiences, feelings and emotions. One person can see the beauty and the value in everything. The other person only sees the negatives.
  2. That you have the innate capacity to change your experience of this world and your perspective – suddenly life’s biggest problems don’t cease to exist, but they fade away because you cease to see them as a problem. And you are left with incredible clarity, calmness and purpose. A “knowing” deep in your core that you have everything you need right now to create the life that YOU want to live.

Then that moment you create turns into a minute
That minute turns into hours
Those hours turn into days and years

And you are left at the end of it all having just lived a life…
… for which you were so grateful. Every single moment.

So – what are 3 things that went well for you today?

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